I haven’t been on the blog in a while. Like many, I am feeling the upheaval of this time of year. Life changes in an instant, and sometimes the entirety of our experience can shift. When the waves are rolling in, it is important to start using all of those spiritual tools that we have been collecting over the years. One of the questions I get asked a lot is,
“How do I stay centered in all of this upheaval?”
Now, what I am about to say is going to sound counter intuitive, but it is something that holds a lot of truth…Don’t try to stay centered in all of it. Let yourself feel the entirety of the ocean. Feel the waves of emotion that come through life experience, and acknowledge all of them. Let yourself be present in your presence. Staying in the moment is not an easy thing to do. Holding steady, and just allowing the rain to fall on us when we have forgotten our umbrella is not easy.. but will running really get us less wet?
Many of us are taught to either push away the emotions that upheaval bring, or to pull them close to us. The other option is to do nothing except give what arises within you your gentle observation. In upheaval we can cling to that which is moving away from us, and this keeps us in a pity puddle. Some of us get use to being the victims of our experience. We get use to false refuges, and we stay in situations that feel safe. Pushing things away can be equally harmful to our experience. When we suppress emotions, when we do not acknowledge that grieving is a necessary part of any transition, we allow ourselves to move through anger, hurt, or heavier emotions with grace. We allow tears to flow, because “being strong” means being vulnerable. We we move into this type of grace with ourselves, we do not resist, but allow.
Another important part of finding our flow is allowing detox to happen. Whenever we go through the currents of life, when we feel the loss, we have to allow a period of detoxification. Part of suppression is moving too quickly into the next experience. If we do not take time to process our lessons, we will have to go through them again, and they only get closer too us.
In the end, it is not about staying centered, but staying with the flow. YOU are the center, and where you are is where you are supposed to be. It might not be pretty, but it is the reality of any given moment. This acceptance allows you to be in the flow, and in a place of balance with the forces around you. So, don’t look for the center, be the center. Be all that you are.
So, getting back into the blogging flow. I’ll have more to post soon, new things are coming, new projects, a move, and new experiences. I am not sure what comes next, but the flow is wonderful.
You are Loved. You are Beautiful. You are Divine.
Michael Brazell CFT CSN MAT PAT
michael@michaelbrazell.com
Movement + Ritual + Grief Care 